Read Chapter 5 of “The Lion Who Flinched”
Spirit of the Lion – Lesson Two “We First,” Instead of “Me First” To breed trust and respect, so we can do good things together, each of us must adopt a “we first” attitude. If any of us focuses on “me first,” we will try to control and dominate each other. This emphasis will create distrust and prevent us from caring for and respecting each other. We will be unable to move forward and make progress together. We will not survive. “We first” is non-threatening. It is easier to be honest with each other. We can share more openly and develop enough trust to show our vulnerabilities. With “we first,” we can make progress together, because we are all acting in ways that are best for the group. With a “we first” attitude, it is natural to project caring and concern for others. When we do, others reflect that back to us. This reflection creates a positive atmosphere, and an excitement to work together. It has a much more lasting effect than “me first.” There is a big difference in relationships and outcomes between “me first” and “we first.”
Think about an individual with whom you interact where an element of anxiety and tension may be limiting your relationship.
• What is the basis of the anxiety and tension? Is it due to Me First attitudes and behavior? On whose part? Yours? The other person? Both of you? • How could you act differently to eliminate the anxiety and increase positive connections with that person? (Focus on We First attitudes and behavior) • In response to the above questions, what specific actions are you willing to take to improve this relationship?